Power Struggles
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It’s always interesting to me when I see an obvious power dynamic between two other people. I’ve noticed that most relationships fall into one of three categories:
Are you one of those couples that people put an expiration date on? Do you have a one up/one down mentality? Do you always have to be right? If someone else has a different opinion or idea do you give them the ground to speak on or do you undermine them? Does your boyfriend or girlfriend fall into the category or better than or less than me?
If any of these sound like you… you may want to try looking at the other person eye to eye and holding equal ground instead of always competing to win. As my old boss used to say, don’t be a hater! It’s pretty wonderful to have a partner instead of a competitor. After all… we have enough competition in our day to day lives without needing to come home to more of the same.
- Some partnerships are true partners. Equal in expectations, responsibilities, involvement and relationship support. There is no visible “one up/one down” or power struggle in the way they interact. Each views the other with respect and love and does their best to remain in balance with the other person. This isn’t all to say they are perfect, just that they try to remain peers and equals instead of putting one person over the other.
- Other partners revel in the one up/one down power struggle. Who knows more than the other person, who makes more money, has more prestige, spends more time cleaning the toilets… you name it and couples can compete about it. In this dynamic, there is a constant juggling in the power structure — a competition for who is top dog so to speak. They fight for the right to be right. These are the ones who say “Look at what YOUR child/dog/friend did to the wood floors!” when its a shared child, pet or friend.
- The third structure reflects a one person dominant/one person submissive structure. Really obvious in old movies… this one is where the wife only has one function — homemaker or child-bearer and referred to as “the little woman” or the “ball and chain” when out in public. Or the man is simply the “breadwinner” and has little to no influence in the family dynamic. With this lopsided power structure — one person always knows best or is always right. There is no room for the other person to show any sign of excellence, opinion or separate desire. I’m not saying all homemaker/breadwinner scenarios reflect this dynamic — some are very equal in influence, power and respect — but its a typical set up for a one up/one down scenario.
Dating after 40 in France | Dating For Over 50 in France | +60 Personals in France | French Casual Singles | French Big And Beautiful Women | French Mature Singles | French Women Seeking Men | French Insta Ladies | French Women For Marriage - So what does a power imbalance look like in dating? Sometimes it can be as simple as one person always being assigned the task of making the plans or insisting on being the one who makes the plans with little input from the other person. And other times it can be as extreme as two people competing for attention in every social engagement or constant sparring and bickering even when it’s highly inappropriate behavior. I’m sure you’ve seen your own fair share of relationships where you put a time clock on how long that one is going to last and just shrug your shoulders and try to avoid making plans with them as a couple.
Are you one of those couples that people put an expiration date on? Do you have a one up/one down mentality? Do you always have to be right? If someone else has a different opinion or idea do you give them the ground to speak on or do you undermine them? Does your boyfriend or girlfriend fall into the category or better than or less than me?
If any of these sound like you… you may want to try looking at the other person eye to eye and holding equal ground instead of always competing to win. As my old boss used to say, don’t be a hater! It’s pretty wonderful to have a partner instead of a competitor. After all… we have enough competition in our day to day lives without needing to come home to more of the same.
Début de l'événement
17.04.2022
Fin de l'événement
17.04.2022